Couples Therapy

Your relationship feels like you’re walking on thin ice.

One comment from your partner can trigger a crack.

“How could he say that to me after all I do for him?”

“Why does she complain the minute I walk in the door?”

It’s like you no longer understand each other.

When you first started dating, there was excitement! You found someone who shared similar passions, goals, and values.

You finally met the person you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with.

This relationship was a path and journey you happily took together.

But as time went on, you’ve both changed.

You’ve tried many things to reconnect with your partner.

All the best relationship advice blogs and podcasts haven’t offered anything that helps.

Your family and friends reassure you that every couple goes through ‘ups and downs’ and ‘rough patches’ – no relationship is perfect! But your relationship has experienced more downs than seems reasonable, and the rough patches keep getting rougher.

Trying to carve out time to discuss difficult issues spurs heated emotions, and your ‘talk’ turns into a screaming match and blame game.

One partner feels defensive, and the other feels attacked.

Now you both feel frustrated, hopeless, and overwhelmed.

But you love each other and want to make this relationship work.

You want to give each other what you both need.

Therapy is a safe place to learn ways to communicate with your partner.

It’s where you will learn new skills of talking and listening to each other. Effective communication allows a new way of relating to each other where you will feel heard, understood, and accepted.

We will discover your attachment styles to help you understand where you and your partner get stuck. Preoccupied attachment can make you dependent on the partner to help you feel loved and secure. Avoidant attachment makes one separate and becomes self-reliant. Couples find this combination very stressful as what one needs triggers the other to pull away.

Empathetic listening is a way to hear with your heart what your partner is telling you. When someone we love listens to you with their heart, not their head (where our fears, anxieties, and traumas live), we feel loved and experience intimacy. This is the foundation of adult love and opens the door for sex, by the way.

Your relationship deserves the love you’re capable of giving

At Alba Center, we will help you trust your partner and, most importantly, intimacy again.

Healthy relationships don’t have to be based on what others modeled for you.

You know that loving someone is not enough. You need to learn ways to communicate healthier, so you are both understood.

Give us a call, send us a text, or send an email to start the process of connecting you with a loved one. We are here to help.